Home
  • fr-FR
  • English (UK)

Schedule YOUR Complimentary Strategy Session (a $225.00 Value) Click Here

icons1

Strategy Sessions

A conversation about YOU

Where you are now. Where you want to go. How I can help you get there.
Read More...
icons2

Books And EBooks

Ideas to Help You be Your Best

Books to open your mind, heart and soul.
Read More...
icons3

Helpful Articles

Join in the Conversation

Ongoing support to engage and inspire you.
Read More...
icons4

My Story

See Where I Have Been

I have been to my plateau where I saw where I had been, where I was and what I could become.
Read More...

Deborah WIlson

Deborah Chelette-Wilson

STRATEGY SESSION

banner3b

A Life Of Love And Balance Blog

For Women

Woman have been indoctrinated to believe they are responsible for the lives and behavior of others. If a child has problems in school, it’s because they have not been a good enough mother. If her husband seeks other women, she hasn’t been a good enough wife. If she has issues at work she isn’t a good enough employee. If she isn’t active in PTA, Church, Community activities she isn’t---- ENOUGH! These outdated beliefs are driving women every into overwhelm and burn out. Women are part of the problem, too, because they continue to struggle to live up to these unrealistic cultural expectations. However, the good news is you are part of your solution. Taking responsibility for someone else’s behavior is denying them the experience of accountability. It also becomes a distraction to you taking responsibility for yourself. In order to find your solutions, you need to reconnect to your intuitive intelligence and disconnect from your human doing. It is time to find your loving, nurturing, and creative self, to balance your overwhelmed one. It is time to find a place beyond survival and hoping for permission you have done enough so you are good enough. To do this you need an inner shift to create an outer one. When you pause with me you will create a foundation of self-care so when you do other-care you will include you so you won’t burn out.
Hits: 3810
0
Posted by on in For Women

iStock 000019026722 Resized 300x224Monica sounded frantic. “I yelled at him! I yelled at him! He went running to his room saying he hates me. What have I done? I’ve ruined everything!”

When I hear these words I know that we have come to the difficult struggle to maintain progress.

“Monica, have you forgotten that we talked about this. One day you would probably slip and go back to old behaviors. What happened?”

I heard her breathing slow down. Then a sigh. “Yes I did. But the look on his face made my heart hurt for what I had done.”

Hits: 8248

Posted by on in For Women

Deborah Chelette Wilson life coach family counselor Sxchg 1015347 185x300Last month I introduced you to Monica, a single mom who was tired of feeling bad about yelling at her son. She had done a great deal of work

getting information and contemplating making changes, but her efforts had failed miserably. Monica learned that she had jumped into taking action before she was really ready to do so.

 

Hits: 5393
0

Posted by on in For Women

Deborah Chelette Wilson life coach family counselor Sxchg 3264 296x300"There came a time when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk to blossom." - Anais Nin

Monica is in her early thirties. Her seven-year marriage had ended the day she wanted to surprise her husband, John, for lunch. She went to his office, and walked in on him and another woman.

Her dream of being a stay-at-home wife and mother ended that day. 

 

Hits: 6973

OkaDeborah Chelette Wilson life coach family counselor Sxchg 92296 300x218y what behavior have you chosen to work through the change cycle?  Or did you?

Did it not get on your "To Do List"?  Did you talk yourself out of any need for change? 

After all its not really you that needs to change is it?  It’s your husband, your children, your mother-in-law, your boss, etc., right?

 

 

Hits: 4436
0

Testimonials

Life And Balance Articles

Learning to Love My S...

Expert Author Deborah Chelette-Wilson

About 6 years ago at a therapist boot camp presented by a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, by the name of Bryan Post I was introduced to his stress model. It was a synthesis of information from family systems, neuroscience, trauma and attachment theory. It states that all behavior arises from a state of stress. That in between the stress and the behavior...

Read More

Love is Learned

Expert Author Deborah Chelette-Wilson

Susan Kuchinskas in her book The chemistry of connection wrote "... loving isn't automatic." John Bowlby, the father of attachment stated that the first three years of life lay the foundation for all of our relationships lifelong. Research also tells us that what the mother experiences during her pregnancy her developing fetus experiences in a sea of che...

Read More

The Love-Hate Connect...

Expert Author Deborah Chelette-Wilson

arms which given his size was stupid. What I felt was more significant. We were raging at each other about who only knows what. But something inside of me teetered on the edge of going somewhere I'd never gone before or since.

I had loved this man, or so I thought. Truth to tell I was addicted to him and the dream I had of what our life could be together. The dream never manifeste...

Read More

Steps to Relieve Holi...

Expert Author Deborah Chelette-Wilson

The holiday season brings additional "To Do's" to an already hectic schedule. It is too easy to forget to put ourselves on that list. What happens to our Ho! Ho! Ho! spirit when we are stressed out with saying yes to EVERYTHING, rather than a few no, no, no's?

Here are a few helpful tips to lower stress while making sure you spend a little time s...

Read More

Top Blogs

iStock 000019026722 Resized 300x224
Maintenance: What Happens When I Slip?
For Women
Monica sounded frantic. “I yelled at him! I yelled at him! He went running to his room saying he hates me. What have I done? I’ve ruined everything!” When I hear these words I know that we have come ...
Read More
Deborah Chelette Wilson life coach family counselor Sxchg 3264 296x300
Getting Lost in the Contemplation Stage
For Women
"There came a time when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk to blossom." - Anais Nin Monica is in her early thirties. Her seven-year marriage had ended the day she wanted...
Read More
Newsletter Image
The Practical Side of Soulfullness
For Women
Another loop around the sun for us as the end of December sets a boundary for the end of 2014. I remember having a conversation about what age I would be in 2000. At that time in my young life 2000 s...
Read More